Filed under: General, Health, Humanity, Life, Mental Health, Opinions | Tags: attitude, bad mood, glass half empty, glass half full, good mood, moods, optimism vs pessimism, positive attitude
I received this by email, from Aussiebabe, who is one of the other fraccy oreo sisters (LindaC, Aussiebabe, the one who shall remain screen-nameless and I are the middle four and everyone knows the middles of anything, like oreos, are the best part). At the end, the email offered two choices. In the email version, choice #1 was to delete. I’ve changed that for the purpose of this post, to ignore. Choice #2 was to forward. I’ve chosen to change it as you see below. I don’t do email forwards, but every now and then I get something I do want to share. This is how I share with those I’m fond of. Everyone close enough to me offline, who would be someone I’d want to share something with, also knows about fracas.
Enjoy!
John is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, ‘If I were any better, I would be twins!’
He was a natural motivator.
If an employee was having a bad day, John was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.
Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up and asked him, ‘I don’t get it. You can’t be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?’
He replied, ‘Each morning I wake up and say to myself, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or … You can choose to be in a bad mood.
I choose to be in a good mood.’
Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or…I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it.
Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or… I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life.
‘Yeah, right, it’s not that easy,’ I protested.
‘Yes, it is,’ he said. ‘Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people affect your mood.
You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It’s your choice how you live your life.’
I reflected on what he said. Soon hereafter, I left the Tower Industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.
Several years later, I heard that he was involved in a serious accident, falling some 60 feet from a communications tower.
After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, he was released from the hospital with rods placed in his back.
I saw him about six months after the accident.
When I asked him how he was, he replied, ‘If I were any better, I’d be twins…Wanna see my scars?’
I declined to see his wounds, but I did ask him what had gone through his mind as the accident took place.
‘The first thing that went through my mind was the well-being of my soon-to-be born daughter,’ he replied. ‘Then, as I lay on the ground, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live or…I could choose to die. I chose to live.’
‘Weren’t you scared? Did you lose consciousness?’ I asked
He continued, ‘..the paramedics were great.
They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the ER and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read ‘he’s a dead man’. I knew I needed to take action.’
‘What did you do?’ I asked.
‘Well, there was a big burly nurse shouting questions at me,’ said John. ‘She asked if I was allergic to anything ‘Yes, I replied.’ The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, ‘Gravity’.’
Over their laughter, I told them, ‘I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead.’
He lived, thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude… I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully.
Attitude, after all, is everything.
Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.’ Matthew 6:34.
After all today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday.
You have two choices now:
1. Ignore this…
2. Share it with the people you care about.
[Image source (and quiz): Attitude]
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I think we’re thinking alike today. I found myself meditating this morning about mind over matter. Chronic pain does something to people. It wears them out, depresses them and it can get pretty ugly some days. But I was thinking along this same line this morning telling myself I can choose to react to the pain in a different way. How I haven’t quite gotten to yet, still in the thinking stage. lol
It’s funny, I used to always respond positively to people no matter how I was feeling. But I found that if they didn’t know how I was really feeling they expected things of me I couldn’t perform. And I would just do those things anyway thinking I’d be alright if I just thought positively and didn’t ‘allow’ it to cause me pain.
So I started responding positively, but also began to be clearer about things I could not do. So today I’m trying to figure out how to choose the best feelings and use my mind to help my body feel better. But I’ve also learned in the past I can’t ignore what my body is experiencing and if I do, I do it to my own detriment and no amount of positive thinking seems to help. In other words, I can’t just ‘pretend’ nothing is wrong. Now I’m just blathering. lol
But I can say that for sure a good attitude helps.
Ps Fraccy, I’m working on my etsy store. :) Thanks for the idea!
Comment by jayleen February 28, 2008 @ 2:56 pmHa… I should have read your blame someone else post first! Attitude, shmattitude… blaming Kevin is the answer! ;)
Comment by jayleen February 28, 2008 @ 5:11 pmYes, mother.
(…just when I wanted to go enjoy some reading I have to go and get lectured.)
Comment by John February 28, 2008 @ 8:27 pmHmmm…. I read the same story, but he had bought a store and was shot during a robbery.
Funny thing, though. I used to read stories like this one and be hard on myself for not being able to be like that guy more often. I’m generally upbeat, but have definite downs, too.
Sometimes my “ups” are more vertical than horizontal and my downs are more horizontal than vertical, if that makes sense.
Then I figured out that our miseries are motivators, too. When we get sick enough of them, we get motivated to make changes that we need to make.
Umm… I think that’s actually positive thinking in a bass ackwards sort of way. Which is how I tend to do things anyway. lol.
Comment by Linda February 28, 2008 @ 11:12 pmSoooooo Stoked that you liked and used my Fwd. I too like LindaC’s notion that miseries are motivators…bass ackwards. good one!
I shall not be screen-nameless for too much longer.
Keep up these awesome postings Fracas. I am your Biggest FAN! :)
Comment by Aussiebabe March 1, 2008 @ 1:04 amAussiebabe…. nope… you are not Fraccy’s biggest fan. You’re way tiny. What? 5′ 4″ ? I know Fraccy has lots of fans bigger than that. (heh heh)
And… um… the sis between you and me is the one that does not have a screen name yet. Think she’d like the name shorty-over40? Nah. Didn’t think so. lol.
Comment by Linda March 1, 2008 @ 3:56 am